The fact that divorce affects slightly more couples than not is no surprise. But given the fact that most heterosexual women typically suffer financial decline post-divorce, why are they the ones who typically end their marriage?
If you consider evolutionary theory, mismatches between males and females may influence divorce decisions. Is it possible that the features which initially attracted you to your spouse have become obsolete?
For example, consider mismatches such as:
Genetics
Women have shown a historical preference to select a partner based on traits such as masculinity, social dominance and good looks. However, men with these characteristics tend to show greater interest in short-term relationships.
Financial security
Financial security used to be a need for many women who planned to be stay-at-home wives and mothers. That necessity has changed over the past few decades, with ladies entering the workforce by storm. Many women currently hold high-paying positions of their own, minimizing the need for a partner.
Caregiving
Females are nurturers by nature, often prioritizing taking care of others – whether that’s through taking care of the home, raising the children or catering to their spouse’s needs. For career women without a true partnership, the stress of doing everything may bring you to your breaking point.
Ask yourself whether divorce is the answer
Recognizing a mismatch in your marriage doesn’t necessarily mean you’re on the path toward divorce. However, you may be wise to think about what’s best for all involved.
Talk to your spouse about how the two of you can challenge traditional gender norms to work as a team. Or try viewing your relationship from a different perspective.
You and your spouse might decide to make some changes in your day-to-day lives, thereby trying to rekindle the romance you once shared. However, it might be worth a shot.
