Recently, a surprising study conducted by Paul Amato, a marriage researcher, found that sixty percent of divorces are due to low-conflict martial issues. This study, which was cited by Pamela Haag, in her book “Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules” states that high-conflict issues are problems such as infidelity, addiction and abuse, which only account for a small percentage of divorce.
Marriage experts believe that the high number of low-conflict marriages that end in divorce is a result of the slow decay of relationships caused by a loss of intimacy and couples slowly growing apart. They say people are often too caught up in everything else around them, technology being a major distraction, and spouses can lose the connection they have with each other.
These days, people are often over stimulated, getting lost in their smart phones and on Facebook, and they fail to realize they are drifting apart until one day they wake up and realize they no longer feel any passion for their spouses.
Of course, experts say, these issues are simpler to address as opposed to an addiction, an affair or monstrous debt. Many experts also agree that in order to make changes to a relationship that seems to be faltering, people must make a conscious decision to make time for each other and not succumb to distractions outside of the relationship. This includes being flexible and imaginative as well as communicating and being honest with each other.
Source: The Chicago Tribune, “Till tedium do us part,” Heidi Stevens, Aug. 30, 2011